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Khitbah
Hai All.....
Maaf telat apdetnya. Sekarang, aku mau update tentang ...... KHITBAH.
What does it means???? Khitbah, lebih kurang berarti lamaran. Yaitu, saat pihak laki-laki menyampaikan keinginannya untuk menikahi calon mempelai perempuan. Khitbah, harus disampaikan kepada wali dari pihak perempuan. Seseorang yang yang sudah menerima khitbah, tidak boleh menerima khitbah orang lain. Begitu juga orang yang mengkhitbah, tidak boleh mengkhitbah orang lain.
Jadi, pada intinya sama dengan lamaran kan? Namun, lamaran lebih kepada sesuatu yang seremonial. Dalam artian melibatkan beberapa pihak, beberapa rangkaian acara, kostum, dll. Khitbah is simpler, karena pihak laki-laki yang datang seorang diri pun sudah dianggap sah khitbahnya. asal, pihak perempuan ada wali. Karena dalam agama yang kuyakini, women are belong to their family. Begitu kira-kira, makanya perlu wali.
Talking about khitbah, I'll notice something here.
Demikianlah pada hari Sabtu, tanggal 4 Januari 2014 pada pukul 20.00 WIB sampai selesai, telah dikhitbah Maharani oleh Tisna dihadapan wali dari Maharani. Adapun Tisna, pada pernyataan khitbahnya tersebut datang seorang diri ke tempat disampaikannya pernyataan Khitbah dan tidak diwakilkan atau ditemani pihak keluarganya satupun. Sedangkan pelaksanaannya di rumah wali dari calon mempelai yaitu ayah Maharani sendiri.
Hal-hal mengenai prosesi pernikahan, disampaikan secara eksplisit namun tidak menyebutkan tanggal, yaitu "TAHUN DEPAN". Tentang keikutsertaan keluarga, perkenalan keluarga, lamaran secara resmi sekaligus saling memperkenalkan anggota keluarga dll akan dibahas dan diagendakan kemudian.
Basically, as a young girl, career woman, student of collage will be, almost player, it's a hard thing for Maharani to accept such kind of married proposal.Some how, in relation with heart feeling, when you meet someone you love, should he propose you, you will say I DO. #Forget it
Now, let's talking about the statement. It was a cloudy day when I and him arrive to my home. We were waiting for my parents, and there was only my younger sister.
We wait for so long until my parents went home in the twilight. But my dad had to go to mosque, and so did him. then we had a long chat, until more than 8.00 PM. So I and my younger sister went to bed, then He and my dad involved in a serious chat. Than the statement stated. You know, the khitbah.
My dad didn't ask my agreement. But it's mean yes. They said to him, that should he serious with his proposal, he had to accept me however I am. with my egoism, stubborn, ambitious, and other thing. He has to lower down, and so on.
Maybe that was the detail. Then, he back to his hotel. Yes, he slept in hotel. Not in my home coz I didn't permit him to sleep in my home even my mom said so. Tomorrow, in sunday, we went to Surabaya together. Means with my family because they have to go to Surabaya too. Nice trip.
Maaf telat apdetnya. Sekarang, aku mau update tentang ...... KHITBAH.
What does it means???? Khitbah, lebih kurang berarti lamaran. Yaitu, saat pihak laki-laki menyampaikan keinginannya untuk menikahi calon mempelai perempuan. Khitbah, harus disampaikan kepada wali dari pihak perempuan. Seseorang yang yang sudah menerima khitbah, tidak boleh menerima khitbah orang lain. Begitu juga orang yang mengkhitbah, tidak boleh mengkhitbah orang lain.
Jadi, pada intinya sama dengan lamaran kan? Namun, lamaran lebih kepada sesuatu yang seremonial. Dalam artian melibatkan beberapa pihak, beberapa rangkaian acara, kostum, dll. Khitbah is simpler, karena pihak laki-laki yang datang seorang diri pun sudah dianggap sah khitbahnya. asal, pihak perempuan ada wali. Karena dalam agama yang kuyakini, women are belong to their family. Begitu kira-kira, makanya perlu wali.
Talking about khitbah, I'll notice something here.
Demikianlah pada hari Sabtu, tanggal 4 Januari 2014 pada pukul 20.00 WIB sampai selesai, telah dikhitbah Maharani oleh Tisna dihadapan wali dari Maharani. Adapun Tisna, pada pernyataan khitbahnya tersebut datang seorang diri ke tempat disampaikannya pernyataan Khitbah dan tidak diwakilkan atau ditemani pihak keluarganya satupun. Sedangkan pelaksanaannya di rumah wali dari calon mempelai yaitu ayah Maharani sendiri.
Hal-hal mengenai prosesi pernikahan, disampaikan secara eksplisit namun tidak menyebutkan tanggal, yaitu "TAHUN DEPAN". Tentang keikutsertaan keluarga, perkenalan keluarga, lamaran secara resmi sekaligus saling memperkenalkan anggota keluarga dll akan dibahas dan diagendakan kemudian.
Basically, as a young girl, career woman, student of collage will be, almost player, it's a hard thing for Maharani to accept such kind of married proposal.
Now, let's talking about the statement. It was a cloudy day when I and him arrive to my home. We were waiting for my parents, and there was only my younger sister.
We wait for so long until my parents went home in the twilight. But my dad had to go to mosque, and so did him. then we had a long chat, until more than 8.00 PM. So I and my younger sister went to bed, then He and my dad involved in a serious chat. Than the statement stated. You know, the khitbah.
My dad didn't ask my agreement. But it's mean yes. They said to him, that should he serious with his proposal, he had to accept me however I am. with my egoism, stubborn, ambitious, and other thing. He has to lower down, and so on.
Maybe that was the detail. Then, he back to his hotel. Yes, he slept in hotel. Not in my home coz I didn't permit him to sleep in my home even my mom said so. Tomorrow, in sunday, we went to Surabaya together. Means with my family because they have to go to Surabaya too. Nice trip.
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